Happy birthday to our 9 year old goob! We are so p Happy birthday to our 9 year old goob! We are so proud of this boy. We are constantly told by others how kind and sweet his is. I mean, we know it too, but it means even more when his character shines through even when mom and dad aren't watching. We love you so much "Puppy!"
More photos from this weekend 🍂🍏⚽ More photos from this weekend 🍂🍏⚽
The start of a new school year has always felt lik The start of a new school year has always felt like more of a “New Years” to me than January 1st ever did. The air starts getting more crisp (thank goodness), the leaves start to change, and the house is quieter (now that the kids are in school, and just during the day, ha). 

Every year around this time I can clearly look back and see how our family has changed. Last year, we had just said goodbye to the boys (our first foster placement) and our family was making sense of the whirlwind that had just happened over the summer. This year, David is way more into soccer, Evy is telling me about the conversations the girls at school are having (she’s a huge people-watcher), and of course Cleo is getting so big! Her first two teeth made their appearance this week and we’re also pretty sure she said “Dada” the other night. 

It really goes by so fast. But little memories like the ones in these photos will last. I remember going apple picking with sweet family friends as a kid and I love doing that for our kids now. 

What traditions have you tried to pass down to your kids?
Evy has always been very much a Mommy's girl. Sinc Evy has always been very much a Mommy's girl. Since she's been a baby, I've been learning that she needs love in a very different way than David does. After school and before bed, she especially needs all the love, attention, and cuddles. 

Today I had a pretty hard day with several hours of intensive Zoom calls. They ended right as the kids got home from school and when I was done, I just felt this deep exhaustion and wanted nothing more than to cuddle with my kids and never look at a computer again 🤪. 

I realized that's probably how Evy (and David, but mostly Evy) typically feels after a long day. I can tell that it's especially draining for her. So I was reminded to be extra gentle with her emotions, especially on school days when there's just so much going on and it can feel pretty intense, especially at that age. And especially to us introverts 🫠 Anyone else have highly emotional kiddos?
My phone rang this morning just as we were pulling My phone rang this morning just as we were pulling away from dropping the kids at school. A little baby needed a home until his adoptive family could come get him. 

At the time, we didn’t know his name, his gender, or anything about him. We were told he was healthy and we’d get more details later.

And we said yes! We thought it would be longer but his adoptive family is BOOKING it to get here and take him home forever. He will be so loved!!

I love that we get to share moments like these with our kids. I know they’ll remember them for a looong time to come.
Sometimes I just need to remind myself that not ev Sometimes I just need to remind myself that not every moment needs to be filled with productivity. And sometimes I don't need to multitask. Easier said than done for me anyway. But I'm trying to intentionally practice slowing down. How do you try to slow down?

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Butterfly hair! It's easier than it looks 🦋 Do Butterfly hair! It's easier than it looks 🦋

Doing fun hairstyles with Ev has been a new way for us to bond, especially since Cleo's joined us. Would you try this one??
I'm working to adjust my mindset from thinking I n I'm working to adjust my mindset from thinking I need to rush while the baby's asleep to get things done to rather bringing them along with me when I can. 

Cleo loves being worn and, for the time being, is super content just watching me unload the dishwasher, make dinner, or tag along to grab Evy and David from the bus. 

And I'm way more at peace when I don't feel like I need to rush or time is running out. We have time and most things we have to do in a day aren't urgent.
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Marriage, Relationships · January 21, 2022

8 Super Easy Ways To Show Your Spouse Love Throughout the Day

8 Super Easy Ways To Show Your Spouse Love Throughout the Day

After you’ve been married several years, it’s easy to settle into a comfortable routine. Wake up, make breakfast, pack lunches, drive the kids to school or drive to work, do… whatever you do most days, make dinner, Netflix and chill.

Your spouse knows you love them and you have a relatively happy marriage, but recently you feel like you should do something here and there just to remind them what they mean to you.

If that’s the case, you’re in the right place. Below, I list eight super easy ways you can show your spouse love and appreciation.

1. A kind note or text

I’m going to go out on a limb and say you probably wrote your husband or wife way more notes when you were dating than you do now. That’s ok. As couples grow together, they not need all the symbolic love gestures that they did when they were first starting to get to know each other.

But—that doesn’t mean the art of writing notes is dead. Your note can be as heartfelt as telling them how they make you feel or as simple as telling them they have a nice butt. Your choice. The point is to make your spouse feel noticed, appreciated, and loved.

2. Keeping up with an interest of theirs

Ok, so your spouse might look at your funny if you out of nowhere mention how one of their favorite players got traded to a new team. BUT you can make an effort to watch their favorite sport with them, participate in one of their hobbies with them, or even ask if they’d like to join you in your hobby.

3. Making a food they love

Simple, but a really sweet gesture. If there’s a dish your spouse loves that they don’t get to eat very often, try making it yourself every couple of months. They’ll be sure to appreciate the gesture and the fact that you were thinking of them.

Josh and I have pretty different tastes in foods. He loves fish and I could pass on fish altogether. Still, I like to try to make his favorite salmon dish or have us go to a great seafood restaurant a few times a year and he always really appreciate that.

4. Make time to just ~ be ~ with them

Everyone feels love in different ways. I’m definitely acts of service whereas Josh, on the other hand is definitely quality time. Which sometimes bites us in the behind because after the kids go to bed, he’ll sit down to start spending time with me and get sad that I’m spending too much time cleaning up and I get sad that he’s not up and helping me clean. But, we’ve more or less learned to ask for what we need and meet in the middle.

I digress.

No matter what makes you and your spouse feel loved, quality time is really important. Sometimes it can be hard to strike up a good conversation when you’re just staring at each other, so I find that doing even the simplest activities helps foster good conversation. Things like going on a walk, cooking a meal together, listening to a podcast together, etc. Find what kind of quality time you like spending together and make room for it during your day.

5. Say thank you

Sure, sounds obvious. But if anyone’s been married for at least a few years, you’ve probably assumed certain roles and responsibilities. For example, Josh typically mows the lawn and I do the laundry. But, just because something is more or less expected of you, doesn’t mean it isn’t nice to get thanked for it once in a while.

So next time your spouse does something helpful, simply say, “Hey, thanks for doing that.” It doesn’t need to be made a big deal and you don’t need to give them a bouquet of flowers. They’d probably freak them out anyway. But a simple “thank you” can go a long way in making someone feel noticed and appreciated.

6. Pick one of their smaller responsibilities and do it for them

Ok, so aboe we talked about saying thank you even for responsibilities your spouse typically take care of on their own. But what if, once in a while, you took it upon yourself to take care of that for them?

I feel like this would work best on people whose love language is acts of service or gift-giving, but who doesn’t like having less to do?

7. Remind them of their strengths

Maybe I was just naive, but it took me a long time to figure out that I wasn’t the only one in our relationship that had insecurities. Since Josh was a lot less emotionally driven than I was, I assumed he just didn’t have many insecurities, if any at all.

Boy was I wrong! Everyone has insecurities. I think by now we know that we can’t be good at everything. But everyone has those seasons where it feels like we’re not good at much of anything. And we all need to be reminded of what we’re good at from time to time. It could be something as little as being organized and helping the family stay organized. Or as big as having the strength to advocate for you or your family in a situation where they needed it.

Whatever the case, take time to remind your spouse of their strengths in case they could be going through a bout of insecurity.

8. Have fun

Now, I’m the type of person who always felt a lot of pressure when I read or heard advice like this. I’m on the quiet side and don’t consider myself that funny. But, even if you’re the same, you can still find ways to have fun. One way is to simply not take yourself too seriously. Poke fun at your spouse, and also poke fun at yourself.

Another way you could show this is to, if you can, plan spontaneous nights out, plan a date where you do an activity rather than the tried and true dinner and a movie.

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Happy birthday to our 9 year old goob! We are so p Happy birthday to our 9 year old goob! We are so proud of this boy. We are constantly told by others how kind and sweet his is. I mean, we know it too, but it means even more when his character shines through even when mom and dad aren't watching. We love you so much "Puppy!"
More photos from this weekend 🍂🍏⚽ More photos from this weekend 🍂🍏⚽
The start of a new school year has always felt lik The start of a new school year has always felt like more of a “New Years” to me than January 1st ever did. The air starts getting more crisp (thank goodness), the leaves start to change, and the house is quieter (now that the kids are in school, and just during the day, ha). 

Every year around this time I can clearly look back and see how our family has changed. Last year, we had just said goodbye to the boys (our first foster placement) and our family was making sense of the whirlwind that had just happened over the summer. This year, David is way more into soccer, Evy is telling me about the conversations the girls at school are having (she’s a huge people-watcher), and of course Cleo is getting so big! Her first two teeth made their appearance this week and we’re also pretty sure she said “Dada” the other night. 

It really goes by so fast. But little memories like the ones in these photos will last. I remember going apple picking with sweet family friends as a kid and I love doing that for our kids now. 

What traditions have you tried to pass down to your kids?
Evy has always been very much a Mommy's girl. Sinc Evy has always been very much a Mommy's girl. Since she's been a baby, I've been learning that she needs love in a very different way than David does. After school and before bed, she especially needs all the love, attention, and cuddles. 

Today I had a pretty hard day with several hours of intensive Zoom calls. They ended right as the kids got home from school and when I was done, I just felt this deep exhaustion and wanted nothing more than to cuddle with my kids and never look at a computer again 🤪. 

I realized that's probably how Evy (and David, but mostly Evy) typically feels after a long day. I can tell that it's especially draining for her. So I was reminded to be extra gentle with her emotions, especially on school days when there's just so much going on and it can feel pretty intense, especially at that age. And especially to us introverts 🫠 Anyone else have highly emotional kiddos?

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Happy birthday to our 9 year old goob! We are so p Happy birthday to our 9 year old goob! We are so proud of this boy. We are constantly told by others how kind and sweet his is. I mean, we know it too, but it means even more when his character shines through even when mom and dad aren't watching. We love you so much "Puppy!"
More photos from this weekend 🍂🍏⚽ More photos from this weekend 🍂🍏⚽
The start of a new school year has always felt lik The start of a new school year has always felt like more of a “New Years” to me than January 1st ever did. The air starts getting more crisp (thank goodness), the leaves start to change, and the house is quieter (now that the kids are in school, and just during the day, ha). 

Every year around this time I can clearly look back and see how our family has changed. Last year, we had just said goodbye to the boys (our first foster placement) and our family was making sense of the whirlwind that had just happened over the summer. This year, David is way more into soccer, Evy is telling me about the conversations the girls at school are having (she’s a huge people-watcher), and of course Cleo is getting so big! Her first two teeth made their appearance this week and we’re also pretty sure she said “Dada” the other night. 

It really goes by so fast. But little memories like the ones in these photos will last. I remember going apple picking with sweet family friends as a kid and I love doing that for our kids now. 

What traditions have you tried to pass down to your kids?
Evy has always been very much a Mommy's girl. Sinc Evy has always been very much a Mommy's girl. Since she's been a baby, I've been learning that she needs love in a very different way than David does. After school and before bed, she especially needs all the love, attention, and cuddles. 

Today I had a pretty hard day with several hours of intensive Zoom calls. They ended right as the kids got home from school and when I was done, I just felt this deep exhaustion and wanted nothing more than to cuddle with my kids and never look at a computer again 🤪. 

I realized that's probably how Evy (and David, but mostly Evy) typically feels after a long day. I can tell that it's especially draining for her. So I was reminded to be extra gentle with her emotions, especially on school days when there's just so much going on and it can feel pretty intense, especially at that age. And especially to us introverts 🫠 Anyone else have highly emotional kiddos?
My phone rang this morning just as we were pulling My phone rang this morning just as we were pulling away from dropping the kids at school. A little baby needed a home until his adoptive family could come get him. 

At the time, we didn’t know his name, his gender, or anything about him. We were told he was healthy and we’d get more details later.

And we said yes! We thought it would be longer but his adoptive family is BOOKING it to get here and take him home forever. He will be so loved!!

I love that we get to share moments like these with our kids. I know they’ll remember them for a looong time to come.
Sometimes I just need to remind myself that not ev Sometimes I just need to remind myself that not every moment needs to be filled with productivity. And sometimes I don't need to multitask. Easier said than done for me anyway. But I'm trying to intentionally practice slowing down. How do you try to slow down?

Shoes @naot.northamerica
Dress @shopbohme
Butterfly hair! It's easier than it looks 🦋 Do Butterfly hair! It's easier than it looks 🦋

Doing fun hairstyles with Ev has been a new way for us to bond, especially since Cleo's joined us. Would you try this one??
I'm working to adjust my mindset from thinking I n I'm working to adjust my mindset from thinking I need to rush while the baby's asleep to get things done to rather bringing them along with me when I can. 

Cleo loves being worn and, for the time being, is super content just watching me unload the dishwasher, make dinner, or tag along to grab Evy and David from the bus. 

And I'm way more at peace when I don't feel like I need to rush or time is running out. We have time and most things we have to do in a day aren't urgent.
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