Hi guys! I want to introduce today’s post writer: she’s a woman very dear to me who had always spoken wisdom and love into my life! I’ve been asking her for a while to share some of her insights here on Sweet Wife and I finally got her to sit down and do it! Introducing…. my lovely mama!!!
3 Discoveries About Remarriage After Divorce
Please realize that I take marriage very seriously and considered myself married for life to my first husband as I believe God intends. However, after my first husband was unfaithful, and although I tried everything within my power to restore the relationship, he divorced me. I have attempted to put events that followed into a neat and compact list:
I picked my first husband, God picked my second husband
Ignoring the signs that should have warned me about my first husband’s wandering eye, and thinking I could not love anyone else, I chose who I thought was the one for me. When that marriage failed, I realized God needed to show me who He wanted me to have as my husband. God has a plan that far exceeds what we could ever imagine possible. And I might add that I truly have felt that God restored to me many times over what I felt was a great loss.
Complete resignation to God’s will
I came to a point, after my first husband left me, (which took some time of healing) to resign my life completely to God’s will. Committing time to prayer, reading God’s Word, and keeping a journal were all part of the healing process, and brought me to a place where I found true contentment in God alone, on my own. In my journal, I wrote letters to God. God already knows how you feel but writing it down is good therapy.
Stepping out of your comfort zone
I was lead by God to go on a bicycle trip through a particular Christian company. This was so out of the ordinary for me. Go on a trip? Out of the country? With people I didn’t know? For 10 days? And sleep in a tent?? Well, the last part I was an old pro at, considering I had been camping practically every year of my life with my folks. So I readied for the trip and went. We biked 300 miles in 5 days. I have never forgotten that trip!! It was one of the most fun times of my life. And what a sense of accomplishment! God gave me such a confidence boost through this trip. I knew I was going to be okay no matter what. AND God introduced me to my second husband on this trip, although I didn’t know it at the time.
I have to say that God gave me a second husband who is perfect for me! My husband has eyes only for me, is faithful and devoted to our marriage, loves me and is my best friend, and encourages me in my walk with my Lord. God loves us, and knows exactly what is best for us!
If you are going through a similar time in your life, I encourage you to keep a journal committing small parts of your life to God each day. These could be letting go of family members who you loved on your estranged husband’s side, or giving up traditions you shared and making some new ones of your own. I would write, “God, I give you …” In time you realize that you really can give these hurts over to Him and move on. Reading God’s Word gives peace, comfort, and guidance. Your time spent with God is never wasted.
If anyone would like to share with me your story, or ask me questions, I welcome that!