Reader Question: What do I do When my Husband Wants to Travel Without Me?

I feel like this is a silly question which is why I don’t want to ask my family and friends, so thanks for your blog, it’s great!

I’ve been married for four months and my husband is a very independent guy and loves the feeling of being able to do whatever life throws at him. On the other hand, I’m finding life a bit more difficult trying to find a job and working on other things in my life.

We had an amazing honeymoon in Thailand last December but my husband wants to go on another trip in July. I would like to do this but I am still yet to get a job and don’t know about leave, etc. My husband says he will go without me because he doesn’t want me to hold him back.

I’m trying to be ok with this and want the best for him, he works so hard and deserves a holiday. But I feel hurt that he would go without me so easily.

Any advice?

 

Hi Samantha!

Thanks for writing and thanks for reading the blog! I’m glad you’ve found it helpful!

Before anything else, I would spend time in prayer for you and your husband, that God would give you both wisdom and allow you to work together for His glory (and also for your husband to be open to hearing what you have to say). Then I would try to have a very open and unassuming conversation with him about how his words made you feel. Try to give him the benefit of the doubt, but be honest that his words were hurtful. I would try to be as honest and direct as possible with trying to keep an open mind and assuming that your husband does care about you.

On the more “practical” side, often times new employers will understand if you have a trip scheduled before you get hired as long as you let them know in advance. So, depending on the type of work, I would say that it might not be “make or break” to most employers if you take a week during the summer, they might even expect it.

I hope that helps! Again, thanks for reading the blog! I’ll say a prayer for you guys tonight ♥️

Chelsea

 

Hi Chelsea,

Thanks so much for your reply and advice.

We had a really good chat, at first he was sad and felt like he couldn’t go where he wanted but a few days later he got really excited about planning a night away somewhere in our country so it’s worked out really well!

Samantha