Yesterday morning we had no plans for our weekend. Yesterday morning we had no plans for our weekend. But somehow we woke up in Savannah, GA this morning 🌅 The 4 of us piled into a one-bed hotel room (pretty much like real life 🙄) and Josh and I hung out in the lobby while the kids slept. This morning we explored down by the river and then headed up to Hilton Head since we'd never been. Then by 3 pm, we were headed home again! Love having people who will go on 24 hour adventures with me 🔥
• To be stronger • To feel better • To trai • To be stronger
• To feel better 
• To train my mind to know that hard things are good things
• To set an example 
• For longevity
• To get out of the house 
• To start the day on the right foot
• To listen to good music for a little while
• To have productive alone time

I just wanted to list a few "Why"s in case you were having a hard time finding yours today. Goodness knows I struggle some days but usually one of these pulls through for me ❤️

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divorce & separation, engaged, Marriage · June 13, 2018

Why We Promised to Never Bring Up Divorce

I will share something I figure might prove to be one of those bits of lived out wisdom that can serve as a lifeline of hope to a struggling young couple. I’d like to share about simple commitment my wife Camille and I made before marrying which served as a bonus to our marriage covenant before God.

My beautiful daughter in law Chelsea, (and I mean that in every sense of the word), asked me to write a  guest post for her blog.  Given that her talent for writing focuses mostly on encouraging young marrieds and early parenting, I figured I better follow suit.  As of August, this year my wife and I will be celebrating 30 years of marriage.  That would have sounded like an eternity and conjured up very old person images in my mind when we first married, but like everyone says, it really doesn’t seem so long nor do I feel that old now that we are here. Thirty years is nothing compared to my wonderful parents, married now 66 years, whom we currently are caring for as my dad anticipates going to be with Jesus any day now.  Still, I guess years and time are relative, and given this is directed at engaged and young married couples I suppose our 30 years has significance.   

I will share something I figure might prove to be one of those bits of lived out wisdom that can serve as a lifeline of hope to a struggling young couple.  I’d like to share about a simple commitment my wife Camille and I made before marrying which served as a bonus to our marriage covenant before God.  That simple commitment was to never speak of divorce as we took seriously the covenant we were making with and through God.  This appreciation of, and sincerity towards covenant kept us united when we faced very serious strain in our early years of marriage.  As a young professional fresh out of 6 years of college, marrying my wonderful wife and single mother of two beautiful little girls ages 7 and 8 proved more challenging than I anticipated.  I did by no means think things would be easy, but I did not have the wisdom to give up other activities of service I was involved with before getting married, when I absolutely should have in those early years.

The strain of being an instant father, starting my career and simply adapting to early married life should have triggered my common sense enough to stop all extracurricular activities.  Unfortunately, that wasn’t the case, and when immature and hurtful actions and words along with tremendous misunderstandings rocked our ability to even like one another, and deep questioning of “was this a big mistake” brought us at times to a point that many couples at least would discuss the unspeakable, we held our tongues.  

Now 30 years later we remain solid in both our covenant and the “never speak of divorce commitment.”  God seems to have blessed our desire to honor him and one another as now it appears we do not have to exercise much discipline to maintain these commitments given the deep intimacy and friendship we enjoy.  Yet we know this cannot be taken for granted and we cannot rest on our laurels.   Camille and I acknowledge it was not easy to get where we are, and much work was and still is required.  There is no sense that we have arrived, and we know that being complacent will only lead to erosion of the gains made.  Learning to forgive one another is still critical, and It may just be an excuse for a wonderful trip to Hawaii yearly, but getting away to focus on our marriage at a resort marriage retreat reinvigorates our love for one another and our desire to keep growing as a couple.  

Sometimes a healthy fear of God, and an eternal perspective enables God to mature us, and get us beyond the disappointing let down following the infatuation phase in relationships.  God gets us through the end of the honeymoon period and moves us steadily towards a beautiful, deepening love that comes from a willingness to trust Him, and to have faith in the process of covenant & commitment.  Those who are willing to hold on to this view of marriage can more often than not look back after 30, 40, 50…… years of marriage and give thanks for the love God has brought and continues to grow in their marriage.

 

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  1. Michelle says

    August 27, 2018 at 12:39 pm

    This is something my husband and I promised as well. But three years and two kids later, it’s been brought up multiple times within the past two months (since our daughter was Born). What type of advice do you have for those coming back from THAT? Now that it’s been brought up, it’s always in the back of my mind… And moves to the front during arguments.

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Yesterday morning we had no plans for our weekend. Yesterday morning we had no plans for our weekend. But somehow we woke up in Savannah, GA this morning 🌅 The 4 of us piled into a one-bed hotel room (pretty much like real life 🙄) and Josh and I hung out in the lobby while the kids slept. This morning we explored down by the river and then headed up to Hilton Head since we'd never been. Then by 3 pm, we were headed home again! Love having people who will go on 24 hour adventures with me 🔥
• To be stronger • To feel better • To trai • To be stronger
• To feel better 
• To train my mind to know that hard things are good things
• To set an example 
• For longevity
• To get out of the house 
• To start the day on the right foot
• To listen to good music for a little while
• To have productive alone time

I just wanted to list a few "Why"s in case you were having a hard time finding yours today. Goodness knows I struggle some days but usually one of these pulls through for me ❤️

@nakd.sport
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Yesterday morning we had no plans for our weekend. Yesterday morning we had no plans for our weekend. But somehow we woke up in Savannah, GA this morning 🌅 The 4 of us piled into a one-bed hotel room (pretty much like real life 🙄) and Josh and I hung out in the lobby while the kids slept. This morning we explored down by the river and then headed up to Hilton Head since we'd never been. Then by 3 pm, we were headed home again! Love having people who will go on 24 hour adventures with me 🔥
• To be stronger • To feel better • To trai • To be stronger
• To feel better 
• To train my mind to know that hard things are good things
• To set an example 
• For longevity
• To get out of the house 
• To start the day on the right foot
• To listen to good music for a little while
• To have productive alone time

I just wanted to list a few "Why"s in case you were having a hard time finding yours today. Goodness knows I struggle some days but usually one of these pulls through for me ❤️

@nakd.sport
It might be a couple years later, but we're doing It might be a couple years later, but we're doing the same old stuff still today ☺️❤️
My Valentines 💘 #happyvalentinesday❤️ My Valentines 💘

#happyvalentinesday❤️
How many kids did you say you wanted growing up an How many kids did you say you wanted growing up and how many do you have (or hope for) now? Growing up I used to say I wanted 6 kids 😭💀💀 Love these babes but let's just say I have a new perspective these days 😂
The best sandles are the ones you can paint your n The best sandles are the ones you can paint your nails in 5 minutes after you should have already left 😂💅

@naotfootwear is one of my favorite all time brands for many reasons, but one of the best is the fact that when you purchase any shoe from naot.com, the order is fulfilled by the closest independent retailer to you. How genius is that?? #shopsmall #naottogether #naotic
Ok well by the time I'm posting this our snow has Ok well by the time I'm posting this our snow has already melted but the kids woke up to the best surprise today! ❄️❄️
Healthy habits > motivation Yeh? This seamless se Healthy habits > motivation
Yeh?

This seamless set that moves everywhere you do is called The Braden by @nakd.sport 🖤
#ad I love to pack @lifeseasons Clinical Immunity #ad I love to pack @lifeseasons Clinical Immunity Elderberry Drink powder mix in my bag to have on the go. The elderberry drink has vitamin C, vitamin d, and zinc plus the power of 300 elderberries to help increase my immune cell production and activation. PSSST - it also is amazingly soothing as a hot drink in the evening to boost my immune system before going to sleep and allowing my body to recover overnight. Hit the link in my stories to grab a pack of @lifeseasons Clinical Immunity Elderberry Drink and gummies! Use code CHELSEA for 15% off!

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I’ve talked about this before but never to its f I’ve talked about this before but never to its full extent. 

6ish years ago I was working full-time as a doctor’s assistant and coming home to an 8-month-old baby while Josh worked 12-hour shifts until midnight. I was so busy that I felt like I was losing my sense of identity. 

That year I decided to start my blog. I kept it a secret for a while because I was embarrassed. I didn’t want anyone to think, “Who does she think she is? We’ve known her for years and she thinks she has something to say??”

But - I loved it! I wrote posts on everything! Random pizza recipes, how my run went that day, marriage, motherhood - I had absolutely no direction. But, I started sharing my blog and got a bunch of great feedback on my marriage and family posts. So, I decided to focus on that because that was, afterall, my favorite thing to write about anyway.

A few months later, I started pinning my posts on Pinterest and educating myself on what it meant to blog well, set up posts for good SEO, how to engage an audience, etc. I had a couple posts go viral on Pinterest and for a few months I had over 350,000 views on my blog/month.

Way late in the game, I started posting to Instagram in 2017. By then we had 2 babies and I had been working with brands for a while so I was able to quit my (at the time) part-time job to stay home with them which I was stoked about! 

Later that year, we packed up our stuff and moved to WA. The original plan was for Josh to find work and for me to continue blogging & be a SAHM. But, after several months later and finding it much harder for Josh to find work than we anticipated, I told him, "Hey, don't feel bad, I don't want you to feel pressure. I will look for work to take some of the pressure off."

So, I started applying for jobs in social media and content marketing. About a month into my search I made a profile on a job-matching platform called @scouted.io. A couple weeks later, I got an email from someone at Scouted saying that they were looking for someone to help with their content and they wanted to have a conversation. 

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