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Anyone see our other kids lately?? 😜 You know, Anyone see our other kids lately?? 😜 You know, it's so funny how some parts of the newborn phase have been like muscle memory and others have been like we've had our first born all over again. 

We were worried about how David and Evy would feel with this new family member but they have been so sweet that it brings tears to my eyes to put it into words. I was especially worried about Ev being supplanted as the youngest but, honestly, being the big sister suits her SO well and I think she's been loving it, too. 

I've also loved getting to experience this again with Josh. The way you band together during the newborn phase especially is very bonding. You rely on each other deeply and it's not always cute or pretty. 

Super grateful 💗
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She's here 🌷 Cleo Renée was born 2 weeks early She's here 🌷 Cleo Renée was born 2 weeks early on Saturday March 11 at 1:52 in the morning. 

Josh and I just had a feeling about that day (Friday), so we kept the kids out of school, went out to breakfast, and just spent our last day together as a family of four. 

My contractions started right after my 38 week appointment that morning and progressed throughout the day until around 4pm when I thought, "Mmk, I'm starting to really need to breathe through these. Better go in."

I was so convinced they were going to turn us away that it really didn't hit me that we were actually going to meet our girl that night until we'd been there for a few hours already. 

Baby girl ended up being 7lbs 15oz and 20in long!

We are all so in love. David and Evy are OBSESSED. A few times their friends have come to the door to ask them to play and they've said they'd rather stay home with the baby 😄

We are so blessed and thankful for this little girl ❤️
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On the one hand, there’s so much to do to get ready for little one to join us—it’s been a while since we’ve had a newborn! I’m spending most of my free time writing and nesting, nesting and writing. 

And then on the other hand, I’m feeling pretty ready to have my body back. And by that, I mean just to be done literally sharing it with another being. You start to miss things after a while like being able to breathe when you lay on your back or not getting indigestion for eating a few grapes. 

Overall, there’s so much to be thankful for. Each little inconvenience is a blessing and I’m happy they’re there. I’ll also be happy when they’re over. For now, I’m just savoring being a mom of “older kids” (8 and going on 6) that can grab their own snacks from time to time and put on their own shoes. We’re going to be heading back to square one in a couple months and I’m sure there’s a lot we’ve forgotten!
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But in the process of meeting everyone else’s needs and neglecting our own (especially our need for rest), we often become bitter towards the ones we’re helping.

Instead, one of the best things we can do as a wife or mother is to assess our own needs and make sure to leave space to meet them ourself or to ask for what we need. 

It might be time to rest, help with the next meal, time alone to pray and meditate on God’s word, or allowing yourself to leave a task un-done so you can “selfishly” enjoy a hobby of yours like the rest of your family gets to do. 

In the end, making room to find joy each day may be one of the best things you do for your relationships.
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Family, Life & Finances, Relationships · June 30, 2016

How to make friends as a grown up

If life has recently gone through a lot of changes for you, you may be left wondering, “Where are all my friends at? How can I make new friends??” Well, with you in mind, I’ve written up this list of how people like us can make real, face-to-face friends with whom we can feel connected and known.

How to make friends as a grown up

Do you remember when you could call up your bff in high school and talk and cry and laugh on the phone with her for hours? Do you remember how you guys knew each other so well, you could tell what the other was thinking with just one look?

As we grow up and get a little bit older, it’s funny (ok, scary) just how fast things change. Friends move away, and people and priorities change. If you’re married, you may consider your spouse to be your best friend, which is so great! I consider my husband to be my bff too, but as lots of us know, conversations with your husband aren’t always the same as they would be with your girl friends. And we can miss that!

If life has recently gone through a lot of changes for you, you may be left wondering, “Where are all my friends at? How can I make new ones??”

Well, with you in mind, I’ve written up this list of how people like us can make real, face-to-face friends with whom we can feel connected and known.

Stop wondering why no one reaches out to you

This is the first thing that ANYONE who wants to make friends and build community will need to stop doing. One of the biggest hindrances to anyone making friends is just waiting for others to befriend them. I mean, sometimes you will happen upon a gem who just decides that you are going to be her friend. Those people are wonderful and I love them. I think the world needs more of them! Sometimes our circumstances can certainly work against us when it comes to the scary world of making friends, but too often, the reason we don’t make friends easily is because we are not intentional with the people around us or we are simply waiting to be befriended. Be one of those gems who chooses someone she gets along with, and be her friend! This leads me to my next point…

Also read: How to be an Intovert AND Great with People!

If you want a friend, be a friend

What do you want from a friend? Would it be nice if you had someone who would listen to you complain and get excited about the exciting things in your life? Someone who can relate to you and the stage of life you’re in, who you can tell your mommy guilt to and still feel accepted? Or someone who will watch the kids for you in an emergency? If you’re wanting all of those wonderful things, you need to be ready and willing (and looking to) give those things yourself! One of the fastest ways a person can make a friend is to be surprisingly generous and friendly to others. Just think of how you would feel if you got an extra amount of help from an acquaintance. You would think, “Hey, that was really kind of them. They’re actually a great person.” Long story short, if you’re wanting others to invest in your life, take a chance and invest in them first. This leads me to my next point…

Be extremely kind

My mom-in-law has the quote “Be kinder than necessary” hanging in their living room and I LOVE it! Let’s talk about being extremely kind actually looks like.

Being kind is NOT “sweet talk.” I used to work in an office of older southern women, bless their hearts. When a customer would come into the building, these women would compliment them, give them the best darn customer service, and make sure they left the office with a smile on their face. But as soon as the door would shut behind the customer, the trash talking would start. Complaining about the customer’s clothes, purchase choices, gossiping about the conversation they just had. It was awful!

All this to say, being kind to another person needs to be way more than just words. This needs to be carried out in your actions and how you speak to others about them. I was extremely hesitant to get close to these women because I had no idea what they truly thought of me! Did they speak about me the same way they spoke about others as soon I left the room?

If you want to make friends, make sure you are truly there for them. If you don’t genuinely like a person, choose other people who you do get along well with to be your friends. I’m a huge advocate for loving everybody, but not everyone needs to be your BFF Jill.

Let’s get to the more practical stuff. Where can you find the people to be nice to, anyway??

Find a mom’s or MOPS group

If you’re a young-ish mom, MOPS (Mothers Of Preschoolers) are a great way to get to know women in the same stage of life as you!! There are also other moms gatherings out these specifically designed for working moms, stay at home moms, etc.

Find common activities

Now, if you do find a person you’d like to get to know better, do it over a mutually enjoyed activity. Coffee dates can be awkward and pressure-full if you’re not a great talker (like me). Instead, finding something to do together can be a great way to connect, talk about your likes and interests, and a superb way to find a regular time and place to hang out. Once, I joined a bunch of acquaintances for a pottery painting sesh! Just having our hands busy made conversation flow naturally (plus having more than just 2 people helped create buffers when I wasn’t sure what to talk about).

I’ve also gotten to know other women through gym classes like Body Pump, Zumba, etc. Not only are these great things to do when you want to get to know an acquaintance better, but they’re a great way to meet people who like the same things you do!

Sometimes, you don’t need to meet NEW people

Now sometimes potential friends may be closer than we think. Making a new friend might simply mean seeing who you already kind of know and get along with, and then initiating the next step. Are there people in your workplace that you don’t hate? Invite them to join you on your lunch walk. Or go do that pottery thing I mentioned above. Ask them what they like and try something new!  I mean, you already see these people all the time anyway, becoming friends with them might be a really natural next step which would take the anxiety of meeting new people out of the equation.

Be open and relate!

What does this not mean? This does not mean, be a chatty Cathy and tell your new potential friend all the details they wish they didn’t know about your life. What does it mean? Actively listen (shush it, ask questions, make eye contact, nod) and then relate to them! Get excited about what others are excited about. Be excited to share new things in your life with them too. And by all means, share about your life, struggles, victories, etc. But make sure that you truly value what your potential friend has to say. Look for them and ask how they’re doing, follow up on something they told you last week. Remember details.

Once you’ve shown them that you truly care, don’t be afraid to be open. People love authenticity and imperfect people. Don’t freak people out, but be open about your flaws. Tell your pal how you’re a sucker for Hawaiian pizza (or whatever you’re a sucker for). People love relating to other imperfect people!

Volunteer

Whether you’re a part of a church or not, volunteering is a fantastic way to get to know others who have caring hearts. These people already have  good-friend potential.

If you are a part of a church, getting involved and helping out is not only something you should do, but a wonderful way to get to know the people you’re sitting next to every Sunday morning. My husband and I had a hard time making friends our first year of marriage because we stayed in our college town but many of our friends moved on. Getting involved and serving at our church in joining a community group has been and an awesome and fast way for us to build relationships. My husband, who is even quieter than I am, has been able to make friends with other guys who he respects and looks up to. I’ve been able to make friends with other women in my stage of life who I can relate deeply II, share my struggles with, and celebrate life with.

Facebook Groups

I saved this for last because I honestly view it as a last resort. Because real, face-to-face relationships is what will truly help us feel connected and known in this big world. That being said, Facebook groups are a great place to ask questions, give answers, and make virtual friends. If you’re looking for a Christian marriage Facebook group, I’ve created my own Sweet Wives’ Community on Facebook. We have daily threads including prayer, marriage advice, date ideas, discussions, and more. All the women are extremely sweet, supportive, and helpful! If you’d like to join, click here!

And lastly…

Be selective

You don’t need to be friends with everybody. As much as I believe in being kind to everyone, not everyone needs to be your confidant. When looking for new friendships, look for someone who will challenge you, hold you to standards, and tell you when you mess up. Don’t just settle for the person who will make you feel good about yourself and tell you that you did the right thing, even if you didn’t. But also, don’t find a friend just for what they can give you. In order to have a healthy, thriving friendship, you need to be the person I just described for them also.

Try these tips and see if you can’t add a few names to the “Favorites” list on your cell phone!

Have you ever face the challenge of making new friends from scratch? What are some things you did to break the ice? Leave your thoughts in the comments below!

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  1. Clearissa says

    June 30, 2016 at 1:49 pm

    Good article. It is sometimes difficult as an adult to infiltrate a group that has already forged friendships but you have given some good tips. Thanks for sharing.

  2. Roxy says

    June 30, 2016 at 1:53 pm

    These are great tips! I was just telling my boyfriend how badly I needed to make some local friends! I recently ,et a super sweet girl at a blogging conference and I’m excited to see where our friendship goes. I’ll def have to use your advice to get a few more local ladies in my life!!

  3. Erin says

    June 30, 2016 at 1:56 pm

    These are great tips! I’ve found great friends through groups where we have something in common such as from my son’s preschool class (we all have a similar aged child for example). I also like your tip about “being kind” – it should be a genuine and authentic kindness for friendships to really form.

  4. Megan Gonzalez says

    June 30, 2016 at 2:09 pm

    This is a great article! It’s so hard making new friends as an adult–especially for an introvert! The “don’t wait for someone to reach out” is some of the best advice, but also hardest to follow. I always think I’m going to annoy someone if I ask them to do something new or too often. It’s a hard line to find.

  5. alexandra says

    June 30, 2016 at 2:12 pm

    This is a great list! I have a post I just finished up that is fairly similar. Seems to be a problem a lot of us are having as we transition further in adulthood.

  6. Jen says

    June 30, 2016 at 2:16 pm

    So, I really appreciate you going deeper with “kindness”. I was in a southern small town that turned on me when divorce was imminent. The whole time smiling. I learned a lot in that season. And one of those things was that “niceness” can be a fake trait that people hide behind. doing the right thing is the real kindness. and it costs more than just a smile! going through that made me a more authentic friend … and also more selective with those I allow in my precious circle. you address these things really well. Thanks!

  7. Luna says

    June 30, 2016 at 2:20 pm

    Great post!! I find that, as we grow older, we’re so involved in our day-to-day lives that we sometimes forget to make room for new friends. This happens to me all the time, so thank you for reminding me that I can actually do something about it! 😉

  8. Chelsea says

    June 30, 2016 at 2:44 pm

    What a great post. I think that we can all resonate with this as adults. I think you have some awesome points; sometimes we forget that by BEING such a great friend, it comes full circle 🙂

  9. Joules (from Pocketful of Joules) says

    June 30, 2016 at 3:10 pm

    Really great tips. Every so often I look around and think I really need to make some more friends, but then I realize I barely have time to keep up with the really awesome ones I already have. So I just try to make more plans with them!

  10. Becky @ Disney in your Day says

    June 30, 2016 at 3:32 pm

    I made so many friends ever since I got back into one of my favorite hobbies – theater! Doing community theater has been a great way to not only meet many people, but also people who have similar interests to me.

  11. Tawni says

    June 30, 2016 at 3:36 pm

    These are great tips! Thanks for sharing! I need all the help I can get in this area as the shy introvert I am.

  12. Tori says

    June 30, 2016 at 3:52 pm

    Great post! I’ll have to remember these when I move to a new city after graduation.

    Tori
    mooretori.com

  13. Courtney Patterson says

    June 30, 2016 at 4:50 pm

    Great tips. We moved to PA last year and it has been so hard making new friends.

  14. Casey says

    June 30, 2016 at 5:14 pm

    Great article! It can be scary trying to make new friends. I went through this after a divorce and I did join a few meet-up groups and made some great friends!

  15. Lydia G says

    June 30, 2016 at 5:28 pm

    Love this post! I’ve definitely had to force myself out of my shell and actually ask people to get coffee or do something, but it’s always so great! Even if you don’t become super close with everyone you take those actions with, it feels refreshing and exciting to get to know someone even just a little better.

  16. Shann Eva says

    July 1, 2016 at 1:22 am

    Great tips! It really is hard to make new friends as an adult, and as a mom. Joining a gym and joining clubs has definitely helped me. Also, love your quote about being kind.

  17. Rachel says

    July 2, 2016 at 2:34 am

    Great advice, Chels. It’s very tough to meet new friends as an adult. Volunteering or joining local professional networks is a great way to do so!

  18. kelly says

    July 9, 2016 at 9:12 pm

    Another one you left off is http://www.meetup.com. It’s a HUGE resource for finding people who have similar interest to you. I’ve used it as a single gal in a new city to now a mom looking for more playdates.

  19. Christy says

    July 9, 2016 at 11:34 pm

    Great ideas but living a small town I mean small like 900 people, we have no kids and I work in a different town 30 minutes away. Any ideas for this situation? Because I’m totally stumped. The longer I live here the lonelier it gets.

    • Valerie says

      July 12, 2016 at 4:05 pm

      Christy- in a difficult situation where I couldn’t find friends in my own situation in life (pastors wife with three young kids)- some of the people who ended up being dear friends were those I thought I would have nothing in common with- two old enough to be my mom and one with teenagers. I suggest expanding your thoughts of who a friend might be- someone at the gym? The kind older lady down the street? You catch my drift. maybe sign up for community classes that interest you and look for a friend there.

  20. Donna says

    September 5, 2016 at 5:55 pm

    I was friends with a girl in grade school. We had great times together! I found her on FB and decided too tell her the fond memories I had being at her house. She said it put a smile on her face and seemed happy too hear me speak of these memories! We chatted a little thru FB and that was it. She mentioned she works 6 days a week & likes too stay home & chill on her one day off. I would love too have a cup of coffee with her & just see her. Doesn’t have too be all the time. But I felt by telling me her work schedule she was trying too tell me something! She seems like a very private person.she clicks like on my posts but doesn’t comment on any or hasn’t tried too talk too me since that day! What should I do?

  21. Janice ristow says

    September 6, 2016 at 5:30 am

    When I meet a new person, I ask her or him what they do to lose track of time. It is much different than asking what work they do. Sometimes a person takes awhile to think about it. Two hours go by and you are surprised. What were you doing?

  22. Jessica says

    October 21, 2016 at 4:08 pm

    Another great group on FB, the Happy Wives Club. 🙂

  23. Sarah says

    December 29, 2016 at 5:32 pm

    Love this post. I know that so many of us know how difficult it is to make true friends as adults. It’s crazy because our lives are so full, yet they tend to lack those friendships! This is such a relateable topic, thank you for writing!

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We were worried about how David and Evy would feel with this new family member but they have been so sweet that it brings tears to my eyes to put it into words. I was especially worried about Ev being supplanted as the youngest but, honestly, being the big sister suits her SO well and I think she's been loving it, too. 

I've also loved getting to experience this again with Josh. The way you band together during the newborn phase especially is very bonding. You rely on each other deeply and it's not always cute or pretty. 

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Anyone see our other kids lately?? 😜 You know, Anyone see our other kids lately?? 😜 You know, it's so funny how some parts of the newborn phase have been like muscle memory and others have been like we've had our first born all over again. 

We were worried about how David and Evy would feel with this new family member but they have been so sweet that it brings tears to my eyes to put it into words. I was especially worried about Ev being supplanted as the youngest but, honestly, being the big sister suits her SO well and I think she's been loving it, too. 

I've also loved getting to experience this again with Josh. The way you band together during the newborn phase especially is very bonding. You rely on each other deeply and it's not always cute or pretty. 

Super grateful 💗
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Josh and I just had a feeling about that day (Friday), so we kept the kids out of school, went out to breakfast, and just spent our last day together as a family of four. 

My contractions started right after my 38 week appointment that morning and progressed throughout the day until around 4pm when I thought, "Mmk, I'm starting to really need to breathe through these. Better go in."

I was so convinced they were going to turn us away that it really didn't hit me that we were actually going to meet our girl that night until we'd been there for a few hours already. 

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We are all so in love. David and Evy are OBSESSED. A few times their friends have come to the door to ask them to play and they've said they'd rather stay home with the baby 😄

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It might be time to rest, help with the next meal, time alone to pray and meditate on God’s word, or allowing yourself to leave a task un-done so you can “selfishly” enjoy a hobby of yours like the rest of your family gets to do. 

In the end, making room to find joy each day may be one of the best things you do for your relationships.
30 weeks and counting down the days til we meet yo 30 weeks and counting down the days til we meet you. We *think* we've finally settled on a first name after non-stop back-and-forth and brainstorming. Any guesses?? Or.. what are your favorite baby girl names right now??
Saturday highlights 🖤 We've been trying to be s Saturday highlights 🖤 We've been trying to be super intentional with the time we spend with David and Evy recently, knowing that big changes are just around the corner! We pray with them, ask them what questions they have, take the time to explain things. I'm hoping they'll be set up pretty well for the transition of little sis coming in March but most of the work will happen after she gets here! How did you help littles prepare for baby?

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