Being a mom has always meant so much to me. Growin Being a mom has always meant so much to me. Growing up, I thought it was pretty much all I was cut out to do, which ended up being false. But even though I've learned that I'm capable of so many other things, being a mom is still one of my highest aspirations. As we're getting our home ready for fostering, I can't help but think of how the little one(s) entering our home will feel but also how David and Evy will feel. How will they react if we parent slightly differently? Will they understand that we're working to build trust and connection or will they feel indignant? These are the things I pray about and also speak to the kids about in the days leading up. We're all excited but I have the feeling of heaviness that we don't and won't understand the burden until we're all already carrying it together.
Doing my gosh darned best to manifest spring over Doing my gosh darned best to manifest spring over here and I think it might be working 😉 Today the kids had TWOsday at school and they were so sweet. David wore a tie (I don't exactly get how it tirles in to Twosday but the kids were happy so..) and Evy "twinned" with a couple of sweet friends in her class. It's so sweet when you see your own kids building their own friendships. It just loosens a little piece of anxiety I've had about parenthood since David was still in my tummy. How did you spend your TWOsday??

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I recorded a Reel while getting ready. Went to the place where we were going to meet my fam a bit early so Josh and I could get in a walk. Then we got coffee, went to a huge antique store (sadly left with nothing but took pictures of my faves so I can remember to come back) and went to lunch with the kids and my parents. Love easy-going and fun days like these 🖤
Back in the day,I was talking with someone about m Back in the day,I was talking with someone about marriage.Josh and I had been married for a few years at that point but this guy was still single. ..

He told me he was studying to get his masters in counseling and he wanted to be a marriage counselor one day.I thought "Hey that's pretty cool" but, curious,because,you know, he was single. 

Anyway, after we'd been talking a few minutes about our interest in helping married couples, he leaned in and said, "You know, I have this theory on marriage.." "Oh yeah?" I said (pretty curious to hear what theories this guy had for all of marriage for everyone everywhere). 

He said, "I believe that every single problem in marriage boils down to communication."

At the time, I didn't really know what to say. I'm more of a *reflector* and then I come up with what I wish I had said later.

Here's what I wish I had said: "Um. Yeah I don't think so. I mean sure, communication helps with a lot of issues. But what about selfishness,⠀addiction,⠀past hurt and trauma, etc? Communication will help people work through those issues but they're connected to much deeper issues that concern the heart--not just your communication skills."

We are all broken, very human, beings and when left to our own devices,⠀we don't have all the tools necessary to "fix" ourselves or our spouse's problems. We can talk until we're blue in the face but we just can't fix ourselves. 

What we do need, is to lean on the Creator who made all things good and makes all things new. To understand that we are not the main characters here. The whole world and everything in it points to Christ and His redeeming power. And yes, he often works that out through us and often through communication. But it's not communication that saves marriages. It's Jesus.

I was just thinking about that today and wanted to get it off my chest. What role do you think communication plays?
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Do you feel like the issue is/was pretty cut and dry? 

Or was there an underlying issue that bubbled up in different ways?

Curious to know your thoughts. 

When Josh and I were first married, we fought a lot. We were pretty low-income, didn't have great jobs, and had a wee baby. While our fights were often about the grocery list, the real issue was that we were SCARED. 

Scared of the adult life we had just stepped into. It was kind of like jumping into a puddle you don't think is that deep until after it's too late and now your socks are completely drowning 🚣🏼‍♀️ 

Luckily, though, they dry off over time, don't they?

After lots of learning and working really hard (both at our jobs and relationship) things started to ease up. We started to see that there was a light at the end of the tunnel and even though we weren't there yet, it gave up hope to carry on together ❤️
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Baby, fitness, Life & Finances, Motherhood, Sponsored · November 23, 2016

How to Maintain a Fit & Active Lifestyle During Pregnancy

Have things in my routine changed? Uhhyes. But for the most part, I’m been completely able to maintain most of my fitness routine and have no intention of putting my feet up any time soon! I wanted to share with you a few of the tips I use to stay active while pregnant and I hope you get inspired and motivated by them too!

There’s a lot of talk out there about how to maintain a fit and active lifestyle throughout pregnancy. Not one prego out there has ever said, “Na, I’d prefer the elephant feet, tons of weight gain, and bedridden pregnancy that I’ve heard so much about.” Instead, we see Google searches of “How to have a ‘belly only’ pregnancy” or, “Can I run while pregnant?” The desire to be fit and healthy during pregnancy is growing greatly and- let me tell you something- it’s totally possible!! As I’m writing this, I’m currently 21 weeks pregnant with my second child, and I still am able to make it to the gym, do squats, cardio, and calisthenics, and feel great! Have things in my routine changed? Uhhyes. But for the most part, I’ve been completely able to maintain most of my fitness routine and have no intention of putting my feet up anytime soon! I wanted to share with you a few of the tips I use to stay active while pregnant and I hope you get inspired and motivated by them too!

1 | Get an accountability partner

Ideally, this is going to be someone who will tell-it-like-it-is. For me, that person is my husband. There may be days when you want to punch them in the face for telling you that you should work out, I’ve had those myself, but overall I’ve found that I’m much more consistent when I’m not the only person I’m accountable to. I’m usually the best person there is to make excuses for myself. And while it’s easy to try to throw those excuses in your accountability partner’s face, it might be beneficial to have someone in your life that knows when your excuses are just excuses, and when you actually need a break.

2 | Get Inspired

What inspires you? I get inspired by reading fitness blogs. Not that I’m trying to compare myself to other women, but when I see how other preggos have been successful in staying fit and active during their pregnancies, I’m able to tell myself, “Well, if they can do it, then I can totally do it too!”

I also get inspired just by getting my butt to the gym. When I get myself to the gym, I get excited that I’m being productive and working towards my goals (even if I didn’t feel like it) and it makes me want to keep going and work even harder. It’s when I put my workout off that I begin to lose my momentum and make excuses for myself. BUT, if I can just get myself to the gym, as much as I might not feel like it, I will leave feeling way more motivated than I did when I walked in.

I know this is girly, but I also love buying new activewear. Which is something you’ll have a good excuse to do once your belly starts changing shapes. Tell yourself that you didn’t buy that cute sports bra just to wear it around the house. Treat that new sports bra to a morning out at the gym and let it live out the purpose it was made for!

3 | Know what your limitations are. And aren’t.

Have things in my routine changed? Uhhyes. But for the most part, I’m been completely able to maintain most of my fitness routine and have no intention of putting my feet up any time soon! I wanted to share with you a few of the tips I use to stay active while pregnant and I hope you get inspired and motivated by them too!

I’ll talk about this more later in the post, but when you become pregnant, things within your active routine will have to adjust a bit. But becoming pregnant doesn’t automatically mean it’s time to put your feet up and relax for the next 9 months. Will you have to listen to your body and be more aware of pushing yourself too hard? Yes! Will you have to change certain ways about how you stay active? Inevitable! But, unless you’re told by a doctor, there’s no reason to stop being active while pregnant. I think it’s very easy for pregnant women to want to listen to the women in their lives who are telling them that it is dangerous to run and do strength training during pregnancy. That thinking used to be really normal when past generations were having babies, so that’s probably what they’re going to tell us. What’s important is building up a strong fitness foundation before becoming pregnant, and then doing your best to simply maintain that throughout your pregnancy. If you honestly feel healthy, don’t allow others to tell you to stop being active. Have an open conversation with your doctor about what exercise routines you’d like to maintain throughout your pregnancy and use their “green light” as an excuse if others try to make you feel reckless for trying to maintain your routine.  

4 | Get hydrated. And stay that way!

Hydration shouldn’t start by carrying your water bottle into the gym with you. When you wake up, drink a whole 8 oz of water. If you have a cup of coffee (which it totes fine in moderation while carrying that li’l peanut in your belly) have another glass of water after that. Remember to drink plenty of water throughout your workout, even if you’re worried about having to go pee halfway though. A quick trip to the loo is worth it to maintain a healthy mama and baby throughout your pregnancy. Dehydration, especially later in pregnancy, can lead to contractions and preterm labor (I got my facts from here). It’s recommended that pregnant women drink 10 8-ounce glasses of water per day (got those facts right here). Besides the health benefits of staying hydrated throughout the day, you will begin to feel the difference and be able to tell if you’ve had enough water or not. Save yourself the headache and carry a large water bottle with you throughout the day and calculate how many bottles you need to finish to reach your hydration goal.  

5 | Set realistic goals

Throughout this pregnancy, my goal has been to maintain the same amount of weight that I had been able to lift. I’m not out to break any records during these 40 (give or take) weeks. But I’d be really happy with myself if I can lift just as much after baby gets here as I could before we got pregnant. That being said, modifications have been made. I can no longer do as many pushups as I could before getting pregnant- my back and abs have made it clear that I must find another way to tone my triceps and core. So instead, I do a tricep rope pulldown with a rope attachment and lying down leg raises. There are many different ways to strengthen and tone your muscles that will avoid straining and putting stress on other body parts. My father-in-law, an extremely knowledgeable physical therapist, says that pregnancy is not the time to start something new. Like, if you’ve never before been a runner, it’s not a great time to start training for that half marathon. There are other great ways to get your heart rate up. It’s also not the time to start weight training. If you were lifting weights before becoming pregnant, then, sure, keep on at it. That’s why it’s so important to make exercise a regular part of your life before becoming pregnant.

6 | Get ready to forgive yourself

You know what happens when you get pregnant? Your hips get wider. This is just something your body does to prepare for delivery that no amount of exercise is going to change. Your body is also going to be delivering a whole lot of your oxygen to your baby, probably leaving you more winded than you remember feeling when you’d go for a job before baby. You’re also going to gain weight (big surprise there). But not all the weight you gain is going to be the baby. Some of it- no matter how hard you work- will be fat. And even maintaining a little extra fat during pregnancy and while breastfeeding is completely normal and a natural way for your body to make sure your baby has everything he or she needs. All of these and more are potentially slightly depressing, real, unavoidable things that happen to every pregnant woman. Be proud for the things you can do, and accept that your baby needs your body to change in order to stay healthy. Your hips will go back to normal. Promise.

7 | Stay safe

Have things in my routine changed? Uhhyes. But for the most part, I’m been completely able to maintain most of my fitness routine and have no intention of putting my feet up any time soon! I wanted to share with you a few of the tips I use to stay active while pregnant and I hope you get inspired and motivated by them too!

This is no joke. Like I said in the point before, your routine isn’t going to (and shouldn’t) stay the same as it did before you got pregnant. You’re going to have to start making changes and taking precautions that you may have never thought about. During my first pregnancy, there were two instances when I started having contractions way before I supposed to. I was lucky enough to be at home with my husband there to call the doctor and help me take steps to make the contractions go away. But being much more active this pregnancy than I was with the last, I had to decide what I was going to do if something like that were to happen while I was out on a run or at the gym. One of the changes I decided to make was to purchase a Road ID, which I now always have on me when I begin to exercise. My Road ID has my name, emergency contacts’ information, and states that I have no known allergies, so if something were to happen to me while working out, I wouldn’t have to take time explaining who to call, that I had no known allergies, etc. It gives me so much peace of mind to know that if something were to happen, my husband would be one of the first people to know and he’d be notified as soon as possible of my condition. Anyone who is active, especially preggos, should really consider taking a Road ID with you before heading out the door. 

Have things in my routine changed? Uhhyes. But for the most part, I’m been completely able to maintain most of my fitness routine and have no intention of putting my feet up any time soon! I wanted to share with you a few of the tips I use to stay active while pregnant and I hope you get inspired and motivated by them too!

P.s. I believe in Road ID so much that I got one both for my husband and our son! From 11/24 through 11/28, take advantage of 20% off ALL Road ID products and gift cards, while supplies last!

Have things in my routine changed? Uhhyes. But for the most part, I’m been completely able to maintain most of my fitness routine and have no intention of putting my feet up any time soon! I wanted to share with you a few of the tips I use to stay active while pregnant and I hope you get inspired and motivated by them too!

What are your favorite ways to stay fit while pregnant?

What are some safety measures you could add to your pregnancy fitness routine that would give you more peace of mind?

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  1. Missy says

    November 23, 2016 at 5:22 pm

    Chelsea, I am not even pregnant but I loved all of your tips! They really do apply to anyone looking to lose weight, especially #s 3, 5 & 6. I appreciate that you include pictures of yourself in this post and throughout your blog- you look amazing which adds to the inspiration!

  2. karen says

    November 23, 2016 at 7:03 pm

    Hydration is key – no matter what your activity level is! And – love the part of forgiving yourself. Why we are so hard on ourselves for any little slip up is crazy. Be proud of all you do!

  3. Theresa says

    November 24, 2016 at 2:42 pm

    I absolutely agree about staying hydrated and safe. Even though it’s tempting to push yourself to stay fit, you have to put the baby first and make reasonable fitness choices.

  4. Debra @ Traveling Well For Less says

    November 24, 2016 at 6:04 pm

    These are terrific tips. I wish I had these when I was pregnant. Staying hydrated is so important. It’s easy not to drink enough when you’re pregnant, especially if you have a tiny bladder. Love those Road ID bands. Those would be perfect for my husband who bikes 60 miles a week.

  5. Mimi says

    November 24, 2016 at 10:18 pm

    I haven’t been pregnant for a long time, but these are great tips for staying fit and healthy during a pregnancy. I think all I did was stay hydrated. Other than that, didn’t do much!

  6. Jessica says

    November 25, 2016 at 1:11 pm

    These are wonderful tips. I like to go on Pinterest and Instagram and follow accounts with lots of motivating photos of what my ultimate goal is.

  7. tahnee| www.sincerelyrosedesigns.com says

    November 25, 2016 at 8:00 pm

    Oh I was the worst at working out while pregnant but I wish I did, it might have given me more energy with my toddlers!

  8. Taylor Mobley says

    November 25, 2016 at 11:52 pm

    I am not pregnant but I do hope that when I get pregnant I can stay in shape. This is super motivating! Thanks so much for all the helpful tips! I am sure that staying hydrated is the most important part of this!!!

  9. Tabitha says

    November 26, 2016 at 1:13 am

    These are awesome tips! I wish I had stayed more active when I was pregnant!

  10. Blythe says

    November 26, 2016 at 3:39 am

    I don’t have kids, but I do know that staying active during your pregnancy can help you recover faster. It’s also could to keep moving so your body stays fit and healthy.

  11. Brittany says

    November 26, 2016 at 3:36 pm

    I love this! I was able to be much more active during my second and third pregnancy naturally and felt so much better. If I ever got pregnant again it would definitely be a must!

  12. arin says

    November 27, 2016 at 1:50 am

    I’m not pregnant (yet!) but, these tips are fab! I need to get better at staying hydrated, and get into a fitness routine! Keep up the good work, mama! You look great!

  13. Kiwi says

    November 28, 2016 at 9:40 am

    These are some really great tips! I love that there are more women choosing to stay active during their pregnancy to keep up with their health!

  14. Jennifer says

    November 29, 2016 at 3:26 am

    I could not even IMAGINE working out like that when I was pregnant with either of my boys. Maybe I would have had less problems if I did!

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Being a mom has always meant so much to me. Growin Being a mom has always meant so much to me. Growing up, I thought it was pretty much all I was cut out to do, which ended up being false. But even though I've learned that I'm capable of so many other things, being a mom is still one of my highest aspirations. As we're getting our home ready for fostering, I can't help but think of how the little one(s) entering our home will feel but also how David and Evy will feel. How will they react if we parent slightly differently? Will they understand that we're working to build trust and connection or will they feel indignant? These are the things I pray about and also speak to the kids about in the days leading up. We're all excited but I have the feeling of heaviness that we don't and won't understand the burden until we're all already carrying it together.
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I recorded a Reel while getting ready. Went to the place where we were going to meet my fam a bit early so Josh and I could get in a walk. Then we got coffee, went to a huge antique store (sadly left with nothing but took pictures of my faves so I can remember to come back) and went to lunch with the kids and my parents. Love easy-going and fun days like these 🖤
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He told me he was studying to get his masters in counseling and he wanted to be a marriage counselor one day.I thought "Hey that's pretty cool" but, curious,because,you know, he was single. 

Anyway, after we'd been talking a few minutes about our interest in helping married couples, he leaned in and said, "You know, I have this theory on marriage.." "Oh yeah?" I said (pretty curious to hear what theories this guy had for all of marriage for everyone everywhere). 

He said, "I believe that every single problem in marriage boils down to communication."

At the time, I didn't really know what to say. I'm more of a *reflector* and then I come up with what I wish I had said later.

Here's what I wish I had said: "Um. Yeah I don't think so. I mean sure, communication helps with a lot of issues. But what about selfishness,⠀addiction,⠀past hurt and trauma, etc? Communication will help people work through those issues but they're connected to much deeper issues that concern the heart--not just your communication skills."

We are all broken, very human, beings and when left to our own devices,⠀we don't have all the tools necessary to "fix" ourselves or our spouse's problems. We can talk until we're blue in the face but we just can't fix ourselves. 

What we do need, is to lean on the Creator who made all things good and makes all things new. To understand that we are not the main characters here. The whole world and everything in it points to Christ and His redeeming power. And yes, he often works that out through us and often through communication. But it's not communication that saves marriages. It's Jesus.

I was just thinking about that today and wanted to get it off my chest. What role do you think communication plays?

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Doing my gosh darned best to manifest spring over Doing my gosh darned best to manifest spring over here and I think it might be working 😉 Today the kids had TWOsday at school and they were so sweet. David wore a tie (I don't exactly get how it tirles in to Twosday but the kids were happy so..) and Evy "twinned" with a couple of sweet friends in her class. It's so sweet when you see your own kids building their own friendships. It just loosens a little piece of anxiety I've had about parenthood since David was still in my tummy. How did you spend your TWOsday??

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Today was a sweet day. Woke up at 8:30 next to Jos Today was a sweet day. Woke up at 8:30 next to Josh in a quiet house - the kids slept over my parent's last night. Got up, raced to clean the kitchen as fast as I could while my coffee was brewing. The coffee won this time. 

I recorded a Reel while getting ready. Went to the place where we were going to meet my fam a bit early so Josh and I could get in a walk. Then we got coffee, went to a huge antique store (sadly left with nothing but took pictures of my faves so I can remember to come back) and went to lunch with the kids and my parents. Love easy-going and fun days like these 🖤
Back in the day,I was talking with someone about m Back in the day,I was talking with someone about marriage.Josh and I had been married for a few years at that point but this guy was still single. ..

He told me he was studying to get his masters in counseling and he wanted to be a marriage counselor one day.I thought "Hey that's pretty cool" but, curious,because,you know, he was single. 

Anyway, after we'd been talking a few minutes about our interest in helping married couples, he leaned in and said, "You know, I have this theory on marriage.." "Oh yeah?" I said (pretty curious to hear what theories this guy had for all of marriage for everyone everywhere). 

He said, "I believe that every single problem in marriage boils down to communication."

At the time, I didn't really know what to say. I'm more of a *reflector* and then I come up with what I wish I had said later.

Here's what I wish I had said: "Um. Yeah I don't think so. I mean sure, communication helps with a lot of issues. But what about selfishness,⠀addiction,⠀past hurt and trauma, etc? Communication will help people work through those issues but they're connected to much deeper issues that concern the heart--not just your communication skills."

We are all broken, very human, beings and when left to our own devices,⠀we don't have all the tools necessary to "fix" ourselves or our spouse's problems. We can talk until we're blue in the face but we just can't fix ourselves. 

What we do need, is to lean on the Creator who made all things good and makes all things new. To understand that we are not the main characters here. The whole world and everything in it points to Christ and His redeeming power. And yes, he often works that out through us and often through communication. But it's not communication that saves marriages. It's Jesus.

I was just thinking about that today and wanted to get it off my chest. What role do you think communication plays?
Merry Christmas from the Damons! 🎁 Merry Christmas from the Damons! 🎁
So much joy in one photo! Ok, maybe 4 photos 😜 So much joy in one photo! Ok, maybe 4 photos 😜 Love my littlest niece, Eva ❤️
Let's hash something out together: what's somethin Let's hash something out together: what's something you do or used to fight about in your marriage/relationship regularly?

Do you feel like the issue is/was pretty cut and dry? 

Or was there an underlying issue that bubbled up in different ways?

Curious to know your thoughts. 

When Josh and I were first married, we fought a lot. We were pretty low-income, didn't have great jobs, and had a wee baby. While our fights were often about the grocery list, the real issue was that we were SCARED. 

Scared of the adult life we had just stepped into. It was kind of like jumping into a puddle you don't think is that deep until after it's too late and now your socks are completely drowning 🚣🏼‍♀️ 

Luckily, though, they dry off over time, don't they?

After lots of learning and working really hard (both at our jobs and relationship) things started to ease up. We started to see that there was a light at the end of the tunnel and even though we weren't there yet, it gave up hope to carry on together ❤️
Go on a walk with your spouse before Netflixing. O Go on a walk with your spouse before Netflixing. Or if you can't leave the house, sit in the kitchen with a glass of wine. Make time to talk. And make it easier by doing things together. It's so so important ❤️
Top knots over crop tops 😜 Top knots over crop tops 😜
Josh and I have been doing a lot of reading on par Josh and I have been doing a lot of reading on parenting recently and I love so many of the lessons we've been learning on creating structure while also being empathetic to your child's needs. 

One of the concepts that's stuck with me is how we should "sandwich" our criticism or corrections with positive things. Kids can get discouraged pretty easily but we can help make sure they feel reassured and loved by complimenting them and noticing & verbalizing their growth as well. 

So for example, saying, "I'm very proud of you for putting away your toys. I want you to work on not bossing around your sister - I'll be the parent in charge. Ok? But the way you put your clothes in your drawers was great!"

Idk about you but I would love if other adults sandwiched their criticism too 😂

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