You asked! I tried these sock curls for the first You asked! I tried these sock curls for the first time last night and I was so impressed!! I decided to freshen them up during Sunday nap and record the process for you.

Literally all you have to do is wrap your very slightly damp hair around a sock and then fold it up over the curls over night. The sock kept slipping out from my hair so I used a claw clip to hold it in place and it wasn't uncomfortable to sleep in. Then I like to brush them out a little and add some texture spray and you're good to go!

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This weekend the boys are staying with their baby This weekend the boys are staying with their baby sister’s foster family. It’s a nice visit for them to be with her (she is oh so cute and sweet) and it’s essentially a respite weekend for us. 

Man, it’s like I forgot how simple things once were. And I never realized it in the moment, either. Two well-connected children since birth are a heck of a lot different than four kids—two well-connected and two traumatized.

We had a movie night with David and Ev last night (something the boys wouldn't normally sit for) and went for a hike up on Paris Mountain this morning and then got our fav BBQ for a weird lunch/dinner at like 3:30 🤪 Good BBQ doesn't wait for the right time of day 😂

It's a definitely a change of pace from the rigid schedule we keep when the boys are with us and I'll admit it's been nice to slow down at least for the weekend. 

We pick them up tomorrow afternoon and I can't wait to hear how their weekend was with sissy + her foster fam!
Everyone needs a creative outlet. This is one of m Everyone needs a creative outlet. This is one of mine. What's yours? 🌸🌺🌻🌼
I've held onto this photo and rewritten the captio I've held onto this photo and rewritten the caption a hundred times trying to think of a concise way to describe the last couple months. 

The reality is, it's messy and hard. The best and easiest days are the days where we stick like glue to our routine. The boys do so well with structure. Even rules that they hated at first, they now love bc they've come to expect them and knowing what to expect gives them a sense of control and safety. 

I have to say, I'm so thankful for the training we got before starting this journey bc we use it daily. And then there's times when Josh and I just need to take turns locking ourselves away in a quiet room for a little while just to take a breather. 

We're also learning the level of attention that David and Evy still need from us. We've started letting them stay up an hour later than that boys each night just so they can get some individual time with us and decompress a little. 

I have to admit, it was hard on Josh and I at first. The constant (and I mean constant) opposition, defiance, screaming, hurting, etc. was just exhausting and stressful. But I can honestly say that we've gotten a grip on things and I feel like we're a really strong team. Even in the hard moments, we are way less stressed and we just redirect the kids or give consequences without getting overly emotionally involved in what the harmful behavior was. I know that's vague but you'll have to trust me I guess ha. 

Continue to pray for Josh and I, David and Evy, and of course the boys. Our needs are all pretty different but we need prayer all the same 💗
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Life & Finances, Motherhood · February 27, 2016

Love to The Angry Mama

When I was a new(er) mom, when things would stress me out or not go my way, I would just cry. Now, instead of crying, I get angry. Anyone else?

Hey moms. See this picture right here ^. Yeah, that one. I chose it for a reason. If you’re like me, you can feel stressed and overwhelmed and just plain burned out sometimes. And most of the time, you can keep it together. Until something hits your last nerve, like stepping on a lego, answering the same question for the 50th time from your child, or feeling like you’re there to take care of everyone but yourself. And then you lash out. You might yell, curse, stomp off, whatever. And even though you’re an angry mess on the outside, you’re feeling like this^ (the woman in that pic) on the inside. If you find yourself to be that woman from time to time, this video is for you…

*Video transcription*

Hey moms out there!

My name is Chelsea Damon and I write for LivingtheSweetWife.com. Today I wanted to say “Hi” to you, Angry Mom. I am making this video not to condemn you, not to yell at you… but because I want to say that I am there with you today. I am having an angry day….

I was thinking to myself earlier that before- when I was a new(er) mom- I would get to the point where I would almost cry because pressure (from life)  and life (in general) were getting kind of hard and it felt like just one thing after another, and everything was always in my way… and- you know how it is…  Now I feel like I have gotten to the point where I don’t really cry. I just kind get angry. And I lash out.

If you are in the same place as me where you never used to think of yourself as an angry person before and you now feel kind of ashamed don’t want anyone to know that you have this problem with anger and lashing out sometimes… I just want you to know that I love you, I feel for you, and I am praying for you!! We are not really angry people. We just need a break sometimes… and that’s ok! I want to encourage you to try to take a couple minutes. Slow down. Pray. See things in light of eternity instead of just looking at how things are today. See the bigger picture. God loves you and there people in your life who love you and you’re not alone!!

I know exactly how you feel so when you feel like snapping at your kids or snapping at your dog (because that’s kind of my problem) I just remember that it doesn’t help anything. While things might be kind of sucky right now… they probably won’t stay this way.

Choosing joy is just that- a choice. So I just want to remind you guys to choose joy, because that’s what I am doing today even though today’s been long…. I’m going to choose joy and then move on.

Alright, over and out, you guys! I love you! If you want more encouraging videos like this, subscribe to my YouTube channel, subscribe to Living the Sweet Wife (by email) and follow on social media!

I love you guys!!

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In: Life & Finances, Motherhood · Tagged: anger, angry, burnout, kids, life, mom, momlife, motherhood, pressure, stress

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  1. Sue says

    February 27, 2016 at 1:27 pm

    There is something to be said for leaving the room, say for 10 minutes, and counting to ten, before anger shows itself. Unfortunately, years later, I regret the times I lost my temper and spoke harshly. It kind of sticks with you. Over the years I have gotten more of a grip on this and yes, choose joy. Children often know when they have pushed too far, and that does not give us license to lose it. They watch and learn and need to see a good role model. A wise woman once told me, choose to love every age and every stage. And I might add, do it with joy. This has helped me a lot. Thanks for your honest post.

  2. Lindsay says

    February 29, 2016 at 1:30 pm

    You are so awesome. I loved this video and felt like you were talking right to me! I have a 13-month-daughter, am a high school teacher part-time, freelance writer part-time, and blogger. While I always have a lot on my plate, it doesn’t always feel that way because I love all of my jobs. But sometimes, there is a weird, random tipping point – usually involving something I want instantly cleaned around my house, and I get crazy angry about it. I usually lash out at my sweet husband or find myself having a short fuse if my daughter is whining. Which is ridiculous. She’s a year old. So thank you for making this video and understanding : )

  3. Aishwarya S says

    February 29, 2016 at 2:59 pm

    A must-read and must-watch for all the moms out there!

  4. Kim M says

    February 29, 2016 at 3:44 pm

    I remember before I had kids, I was going to be the sweet and perfect mother. Oh man who was I kidding. Motherhood has its great points and I love it. And I knew it wasn’t going to be easy. But no one told me that it would also be so frustrating and completely draining some days. Sorry mom and dad! Love the video!

  5. Christina Rambo says

    February 29, 2016 at 9:39 pm

    Thank you. I needed this today. Ugh!

  6. Neely (@Neelykins) says

    February 29, 2016 at 9:50 pm

    I dont have kids but I really enjoyed this!

  7. janella says

    March 2, 2016 at 12:11 am

    This was the best post I have read in a long time. So fitting!

  8. Lauran says

    April 5, 2016 at 2:26 am

    I needed your whole blog in my life right now ! I can tell God is pushing me to seek after him or nothing in my life is going to get better or change. I connect directly with all of your blog posts … wife, mom, housemaid… I really feel like God guided me to you page. So thank you for sharing God’s word and wisdom he gives to you to share with others. #futuregoals #followingGod’slead

  9. Emily Cathrine says

    December 23, 2016 at 6:24 pm

    Thank you for this post Chelsea! I find that if I can stop and remind myself that our dogs are good for my son, to grow up with them around. He’s already far more gentle with his cousins and other animals because of them. He has learned manners through them at the early age of 1 year. So when I get angry with them, I try and turn that around to thankfulness, for them being there to help me make my son a better boy and eventually a good man. Thanks again and keep up the good work Momma!

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Every. Single. Time. Every. Single. Time.
You ever feel like you're dying for a change and t You ever feel like you're dying for a change and then even everything's changing you're like HOLD ON I DIDN'T MEAN EVERYTHING AT ONCE. Yeah, me neither 🤪🫠
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This weekend the boys are staying with their baby This weekend the boys are staying with their baby sister’s foster family. It’s a nice visit for them to be with her (she is oh so cute and sweet) and it’s essentially a respite weekend for us. 

Man, it’s like I forgot how simple things once were. And I never realized it in the moment, either. Two well-connected children since birth are a heck of a lot different than four kids—two well-connected and two traumatized.

We had a movie night with David and Ev last night (something the boys wouldn't normally sit for) and went for a hike up on Paris Mountain this morning and then got our fav BBQ for a weird lunch/dinner at like 3:30 🤪 Good BBQ doesn't wait for the right time of day 😂

It's a definitely a change of pace from the rigid schedule we keep when the boys are with us and I'll admit it's been nice to slow down at least for the weekend. 

We pick them up tomorrow afternoon and I can't wait to hear how their weekend was with sissy + her foster fam!
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The reality is, it's messy and hard. The best and easiest days are the days where we stick like glue to our routine. The boys do so well with structure. Even rules that they hated at first, they now love bc they've come to expect them and knowing what to expect gives them a sense of control and safety. 

I have to say, I'm so thankful for the training we got before starting this journey bc we use it daily. And then there's times when Josh and I just need to take turns locking ourselves away in a quiet room for a little while just to take a breather. 

We're also learning the level of attention that David and Evy still need from us. We've started letting them stay up an hour later than that boys each night just so they can get some individual time with us and decompress a little. 

I have to admit, it was hard on Josh and I at first. The constant (and I mean constant) opposition, defiance, screaming, hurting, etc. was just exhausting and stressful. But I can honestly say that we've gotten a grip on things and I feel like we're a really strong team. Even in the hard moments, we are way less stressed and we just redirect the kids or give consequences without getting overly emotionally involved in what the harmful behavior was. I know that's vague but you'll have to trust me I guess ha. 

Continue to pray for Josh and I, David and Evy, and of course the boys. Our needs are all pretty different but we need prayer all the same 💗
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