Anyone see our other kids lately?? 😜 You know, Anyone see our other kids lately?? 😜 You know, it's so funny how some parts of the newborn phase have been like muscle memory and others have been like we've had our first born all over again. 

We were worried about how David and Evy would feel with this new family member but they have been so sweet that it brings tears to my eyes to put it into words. I was especially worried about Ev being supplanted as the youngest but, honestly, being the big sister suits her SO well and I think she's been loving it, too. 

I've also loved getting to experience this again with Josh. The way you band together during the newborn phase especially is very bonding. You rely on each other deeply and it's not always cute or pretty. 

Super grateful 💗
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Josh and I just had a feeling about that day (Friday), so we kept the kids out of school, went out to breakfast, and just spent our last day together as a family of four. 

My contractions started right after my 38 week appointment that morning and progressed throughout the day until around 4pm when I thought, "Mmk, I'm starting to really need to breathe through these. Better go in."

I was so convinced they were going to turn us away that it really didn't hit me that we were actually going to meet our girl that night until we'd been there for a few hours already. 

Baby girl ended up being 7lbs 15oz and 20in long!

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And then on the other hand, I’m feeling pretty ready to have my body back. And by that, I mean just to be done literally sharing it with another being. You start to miss things after a while like being able to breathe when you lay on your back or not getting indigestion for eating a few grapes. 

Overall, there’s so much to be thankful for. Each little inconvenience is a blessing and I’m happy they’re there. I’ll also be happy when they’re over. For now, I’m just savoring being a mom of “older kids” (8 and going on 6) that can grab their own snacks from time to time and put on their own shoes. We’re going to be heading back to square one in a couple months and I’m sure there’s a lot we’ve forgotten!
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It might be time to rest, help with the next meal, time alone to pray and meditate on God’s word, or allowing yourself to leave a task un-done so you can “selfishly” enjoy a hobby of yours like the rest of your family gets to do. 

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Marriage, Relationships · July 6, 2016

Why you should never ever, ever compare your husband to another man

It could be that you’re not comparing your husband to another man at all. You may simply be comparing him to an idealized version of the husband you thought you’d have. When your husband turns out to have flaws, ones that aren’t so cute as you may have thought they’d be when you dated, you begin to wonder why he isn’t more like the man you imagined and hoped for.

Why you should never ever, ever compare your husband to another man

Have you ever been scrolling through Facebook or Insta and notice how Jessica’s husband surprised her with a planned date night, but you can’t really remember the last time your husband planned… anything? Or maybe you just got done watching that classic romantic movie and you realize that your marriage is kind of totally lame compared Lou Clark and Will Traynor’s passion. Or maybe it’s not like that at all. Maybe you’re left wondering, knowing, that your friends’ husbands couldn’t possibly speak to them the way yours does to you.
Today I want to talk about the issue of comparison. I think we don’t often realize the effects of what we’re doing to our husband when we compare him to others; effects both on our own lives, and our husbands’.

How comparison will affect your husband

Humiliation

I think there’s a large population that really doesn’t understand just how much comparing a man to another man will affect him. One of the lowest blows you could ever deliver to a man is telling him you wish he were more like someone else.

We like to think that men are simple creatures and women are typically the complex ones who deal with comparison issues. I used to believe this was true, too. Until one day some of my own careless words hit a landmine issue that I never knew existed in my husband- and many many other men.

I had been talking about someone that we mutually knew and commenting on how this person was really great with his kids and a great dad in general. I could immediately tell what Josh was thinking: “Why don’t you just go ahead and tell me I’m not a great dad??” To which I spent the next 20 minutes back-tracking and reassuring him that he is ALSO a great father and just because I think this man is a great father, doesn’t mean I think Josh is any less of a father.

This was an easy example to share, but I have more, not-so-innocent examples of comparison that would be a lot harder for me to admit to.

To those of you who may have read this and are thinking “Sheesh! Stop being so insecure and get over it!”: I think many women can quickly write off this issue as just a character flaw in men that they need to deal with in their own time and not something we should have to be sensitive to. But let me help to make this a bit more relatable…

I think it comes all too naturally to a woman to be insecure about her body. We have this weird, intrinsic competition in our minds about how our bodies compare to the next girl. And while I love that our culture is moving in a more “body-positive” direction, this issue isn’t dead. This is the same with the insecurities the men in our lives have about the amount of respect they receive from others. In an ideal world, neither men nor women would have these insecurities, buuut in reality, we do! Just as we want men to be sensitive to our bodily insecurities ( I would be insecure if my husband were talking about how another woman had a great body, even if he had no intention of comparing her to me), we need to be sensitive about the insecurities of men, also.

Demoralization

Demoralize is pretty much just a big word for “discourage.” There’s nothing that drives a man more than knowing you believe in him, respect him, and have high expectations for him. If your husband hears that you wish he were more like someone else, his embarrassment will very likely cause him to pull away from you and revert inside himself. He could either feel like he has something to prove, or he may give up altogether. Different men would handle hearing themselves compared to other men differently, but like I said earlier, it would be an extremely low blow that would be hard to get back up from.

How comparison will affect us

Feed resentment

If you try comparing your husband to another in order to get a certain result or changed behavior, don’t hold your breath. What will likely end up happening is now that you are wishing your husband were more like other men, you’ll start to get aggravated every time he is not more like other men. If you say to him, “Mark always gets his wife flowers on Fridays” and then your husband doesn’t get you flowers on Friday, you’ll begin to feel an inner resentment towards your husband for not being more like Mark. Or your other friend that does that other nice thing for his wife. Inevitably, you’ll begin to notice more and more how your husband is not like Mark, or that other guy, and you’ll begin to wish more and more that he was.

Fan the flame of more comparison

When you begin to compare your husband to others, you’ll soon start to notice more and more things about him that you wish were different. You may even begin to simply imagine that, of course, Mark would never talk to his wife that way. Or that Mark would never create more work for his wife by letting the dirty dishes get crusty from being left out. The truth is, you probably barely know Mark well enough to be able to tell what he is really like with his own wife. But you assume that how he acts towards others in public is the same way he chooses to act in private. Be careful to not romanticize what you do not know about a person. When comparing your husband to others, you may find yourself nitpicking even the smallest things that he may not even be aware of. Ultimately, if you hide these comparisons in your heart without dealing with them, they will build resentment like we talked about in the last paragraph. But if you verbalize them, you risk wearing at your husband with an unforgiving, naggy attitude.

Make us feel entitled to better

If we allow feelings of comparison to go on without proper treatment, they will eventually produce a sense of entitlement. We’ll begin to feel like we deserve someone more like Mark or that other guy. Instead of asking our husband to rinse his dirty dishes, we will simply shake our head and wish once more that he was more like ____ .

OR

It could be that you’re not comparing your husband to another man at all. You may simply be comparing him to an idealized version of the husband you thought you’d have. When your husband turns out to have flaws, ones that aren’t so cute as you may have thought they’d be when you dated, you begin to wonder why he isn’t more like the man you imagined and hoped for.

The ugly part of comparison (besides just the ugliness that comparison is) is that we very conveniently will forget to compare ourselves to someone who may seem kinder, or more hard-working than ourselves. We usually will have the expectation to be loved and accepted- flaws and all- but will hold our husband to high, romanticized standards that very little men can realistically live up to.

This is honestly why I hate most chick-flick, romantic movies. I’m sorry, I don’t mean to be a Debbie Downer 🙁 But when I see women filling their mental “dream-boards” with unrealistic expectations for men where their only flaws are cute and endearing, I just want to yell out, “Just you wait!” This isn’t to say, either, that I have a pessimistic view of men and all of them are bound to disappoint our expectations. Not at all. There are ways in which I’ve really had to make some expectation adjustments for my husband in order to show him extra grace where he needed it. But there are other ways where he has totally blown my expectations out of the water where I never would have expected!

Let’s get real. What can we do when we feel comparison creeping in?

If I feel I am beginning to compare my husband to unrealistic expectations, whether I got them from a romanticized ideology or another man, I try to remember to see him how Christ sees him. Before knowing Christ, we would have been held to the standard of Christ- i.e. perfection. But since Christ died for us, when we are judged by God, He sees Christ in our place, making it so all of our shortcomings are forgotten and God only sees perfect Jesus who lives in us.

This is not to say that we don’t have expectations for our husband or that we never need to ask him to improve. It’s the same way with all Christians. Even though God sees Christ in us and our sins are forgotten, that doesn’t mean we are free to keep sinning, knowing that it won’t be counted against us.

Romans 6:1 and 2 says,

“Should we continue in sin so that grace may multiply? Absolutely not! How can we who died to sin still live in it?”

So when you wish your husband’s actions were different, do these things:

  • Remember your own flaws and that you can’t expect your husband to have it all together.
  • View him how Christ views him, with grace, love, and forgiveness. But also with standards.
  • Ask yourself if the behavior change is truly necessary, or just something that will discourage your husband.
  • Speak to him openly and honestly. Give him the benefit of the doubt, but be honest about how his actions make you feel.
  • Be specific about what you would like to see change and what your husband can do differently. This is VERY important. I think many times we can just stop the conversation at how our husbands made us feel and then let them try to read our minds for how we’d specifically like them to change. Give your husband scenarios and examples. Men aren’t stupid, but they’re not mind-readers either.
  • Ultimately call him to be more like Christ, not just a better person. If you and your husband truly strive to be more like Christ, issues of selfishness and comparison will eventually fall away as you both attempt to love each other in the redemptive way that Christ loves us.

Have you dealt with issues of comparison in your own marriage? Was it with others who you wished your husband was more like, or an idealized, romanticized image in your mind? What did you do to work out the issues of comparison in your own marriage? As ALWAYS, I’d love to hear your own thoughts and stories in the comments below!
Love you all!

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  1. Amanda Rinehart says

    July 6, 2016 at 7:21 pm

    I love this! Definitely something ALL wives need a reminder of from time to time. I have personally experienced how devastating it is to my husband when I compare him to others. I definitely make it a point not to do it him anymore.

  2. Lauren says

    July 6, 2016 at 7:43 pm

    I love this post! I’m not married but this topic relates to all people. Comparison is detrimental no matter what the context. I try to not compare myself or others – but it is HARD! Thanks for sharing your experience and advice.

  3. Anali Martinez says

    July 6, 2016 at 7:54 pm

    I LOVE this!! I am not married yet, but we got engaged last week =D I really agree with everything you said and I hope to remember all this advice throughout out marriage. Thanks so much for being so awesome and sharing with us!

  4. Leah @mylittlerobins.com says

    July 6, 2016 at 8:31 pm

    This post was so helpful for me. I don’t necessarily compare my husband to other men, but to other ideals. I’ve only said something once, but the pain in his eyes was heartbreaking. Now I keep my thoughts to myself, but I can see how even thinking these things can be dangerous.

  5. Terryn says

    July 6, 2016 at 10:38 pm

    I love and agree with this post so much! I have been married for about 14 years and I am still learning more and more each year. Marriage is harder than parenting by far. Men and women are so different, and it takes time and wisdom to learn not to treat your spouse they way you think he should be treated- look at him through God’s eyes and love and respect him.

  6. Rachel G says

    July 6, 2016 at 11:08 pm

    Absolutely! I mean–how would we feel if our husbands were verbally comparing us to another woman/wife? It’s not a kind and loving thing to do, there’s no benefit to anyone. Honestly, the way I think about it is–I want MY husband. I couldn’t bother comparing him to anyone who’s a lot more romantic or taller or more thoughtful or makes more money or whatever because they would be HIM, and HE is what I want, just the way he is. To me, there’s no possibility of comparison because he’s the only Angel for me! 🙂

  7. Krista Dial says

    July 7, 2016 at 2:25 am

    Comparison is the thief of joy! Never a truer statement. 🙂 I’ve totally been guilty of comparing my husband to other men, but then I remember all of the things I’m so grateful for…he really is my best friend. I can’t imagine spending life with anyone else. Looking forward to more of your posts!

  8. Rosalyn O. says

    July 7, 2016 at 12:28 pm

    These are some good points. I would sometimes want to compare my current partner with the ideal person I had created in my mind. It wasn’t healthy and it wasn’t doing any good to neither of us. Now days I accept him the way he is and I’m getting better at it.

  9. Adaleta Avdic says

    July 7, 2016 at 11:38 pm

    This is such an interesting concept, and it’s so important to read something like this because I do have trouble NOT comparing my long-term boyfriend to other people. I’ve learned not to compare our relationship to other people’s because every relationship is different, but it’s definitely hard sometimes not to say “so and so does this for HIS girlfriend, why can’t you do that” but this post really summarizes why it’s a BAD idea to ever even bring up comparison especially if you plan to be with the person in the long-term! xx
    Adaleta Avdic

  10. Kathy says

    November 22, 2016 at 6:35 am

    My husband compared me to his friends wife. It was the second worst things he has ever said to me….the first was when he said I was a terrible wife and mother. I forgave him but i cant forget no matter how hard i try.

  11. *John DOE* says

    January 3, 2019 at 4:38 pm

    REAding this article just rings so true for me. something that has caused serious problems for me is that my wife has continually compared me to a host of other men. i have been compared to ex-boyfriends in how much money they spent on her. how good (and how often) they were in bed, how much time they wanted to spend with her, how patient they were, how emotionally supportive they were, how much mutual activities they wanted to do with her and the list goes on and on. my response to all this was to tell her that her comparisons will make this marriage a living hell, they have reduced but they have not stopped. as a result i have withdrawn myself emotionally and my defenses are always up like a 30 foot wall. then as a result of my emotional withdrawal I am compared even more. its just terrible and mentally exhausting. now intimacy becomes just a job, a job, if not done well will result in more comparisons or complaints. i have explained all these things to her but i don’t think she fully understands the effects of those comparisons. So I conclude that some people are just so selfish and self absorbed, it’s very hard for them to see how their actions and words affect others, they just label what they say as the “fact” and the “truth”or “I am helping you”.

    • JM says

      July 31, 2020 at 1:48 pm

      You, my good sir, sound like you are And have been living in an abusive relationship and I advise you to truly examine what your future will continue to look like with this person; no one deserves this kind of treatment. There absolutely are others out there that will treat you with much more respect and kindness, I know this firsthand.

  12. Gem says

    September 5, 2019 at 10:04 am

    My wife compared me to a friend by joking and told our friend to teach me how to be expressive.
    Our friend did approached me teaching me to buy her flowers. I really felt awkward that moment. A very uncomfortable moment until now…

  13. Kayla says

    September 22, 2019 at 2:49 pm

    Thank you for the very useful sharing and article. I have recently compared my fiance a lot with other guys around me, wishing that he could be someone better, someone like this and that. The worst is that I start to think what if there is actually someone better meant for me and me and him were not belong to each other, while we are preparing to get married next year. This thought has been crazy and drives me thinking too much especially after my best friend called off her wedding recently too.
    I need a lot of prayer to get through this 🙁

  14. Kevin says

    April 23, 2020 at 2:34 pm

    Thanks alot. My husband used to complain about the way I always compare him to others. Now I will stop

  15. Jun says

    November 16, 2020 at 7:42 am

    We have some issues about this “comparison” thing. I was concerned and even really hurt when she mentions other “men” having more better ideas and ideal traits and sometimes defends other “men” when i raise some negative comments about them. I am not a dumb person not to react but sad to say it will just lead to a quarrel between us. My expectation was for her to have some sensitivity over my feelings but so demoralising when my wife insisted that there’s nothing wrong with what she said. No apology. She even suggested that i can also do it to her and she will have no problem about it.

  16. Willi B Mad says

    December 1, 2020 at 2:37 pm

    My wife compared me to my brother in law by telling our son that he is much stronger than me, then she continued to rub it in which really hurt. I feel it is her issue. I try to always treat her and others with respect and I have never compared her to other women. If I were to say something to get back at her, the cycle continues, so I refrain from it. It all comes down to the basic idea of treating people the way you want to be treated. It’s a simple concept that everyone should know or learn.

  17. Any says

    January 25, 2021 at 11:25 pm

    I think my wife does not intentionally compare me with other men, but whenever she talks about other men like how other men treat their wife and children and how his ex was. It really demoralising on me. I am trying to change my the way she wants but it is so damn hard

  18. Mr. KingsHOK says

    March 11, 2021 at 6:23 am

    We had a fight and my wife openly compared me to another man. That really hurt deep and I figured out the reason why she never valued and appreciated all the gifts i ever gave her.

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My contractions started right after my 38 week appointment that morning and progressed throughout the day until around 4pm when I thought, "Mmk, I'm starting to really need to breathe through these. Better go in."

I was so convinced they were going to turn us away that it really didn't hit me that we were actually going to meet our girl that night until we'd been there for a few hours already. 

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We were worried about how David and Evy would feel with this new family member but they have been so sweet that it brings tears to my eyes to put it into words. I was especially worried about Ev being supplanted as the youngest but, honestly, being the big sister suits her SO well and I think she's been loving it, too. 

I've also loved getting to experience this again with Josh. The way you band together during the newborn phase especially is very bonding. You rely on each other deeply and it's not always cute or pretty. 

Super grateful 💗
To the best big brother and sister. Cleo is going To the best big brother and sister. Cleo is going to think she has the coolest, smartest, bravest big siblings in the world, and she's not wrong 😉
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Josh and I just had a feeling about that day (Friday), so we kept the kids out of school, went out to breakfast, and just spent our last day together as a family of four. 

My contractions started right after my 38 week appointment that morning and progressed throughout the day until around 4pm when I thought, "Mmk, I'm starting to really need to breathe through these. Better go in."

I was so convinced they were going to turn us away that it really didn't hit me that we were actually going to meet our girl that night until we'd been there for a few hours already. 

Baby girl ended up being 7lbs 15oz and 20in long!

We are all so in love. David and Evy are OBSESSED. A few times their friends have come to the door to ask them to play and they've said they'd rather stay home with the baby 😄

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On the one hand, there’s so much to do to get ready for little one to join us—it’s been a while since we’ve had a newborn! I’m spending most of my free time writing and nesting, nesting and writing. 

And then on the other hand, I’m feeling pretty ready to have my body back. And by that, I mean just to be done literally sharing it with another being. You start to miss things after a while like being able to breathe when you lay on your back or not getting indigestion for eating a few grapes. 

Overall, there’s so much to be thankful for. Each little inconvenience is a blessing and I’m happy they’re there. I’ll also be happy when they’re over. For now, I’m just savoring being a mom of “older kids” (8 and going on 6) that can grab their own snacks from time to time and put on their own shoes. We’re going to be heading back to square one in a couple months and I’m sure there’s a lot we’ve forgotten!
Naturally, when we see a need, we rush in to fill Naturally, when we see a need, we rush in to fill it and fix it. On top of this, it’s hard for us to ask for help because we don’t want to be a burden to others. 

But in the process of meeting everyone else’s needs and neglecting our own (especially our need for rest), we often become bitter towards the ones we’re helping.

Instead, one of the best things we can do as a wife or mother is to assess our own needs and make sure to leave space to meet them ourself or to ask for what we need. 

It might be time to rest, help with the next meal, time alone to pray and meditate on God’s word, or allowing yourself to leave a task un-done so you can “selfishly” enjoy a hobby of yours like the rest of your family gets to do. 

In the end, making room to find joy each day may be one of the best things you do for your relationships.
30 weeks and counting down the days til we meet yo 30 weeks and counting down the days til we meet you. We *think* we've finally settled on a first name after non-stop back-and-forth and brainstorming. Any guesses?? Or.. what are your favorite baby girl names right now??
Saturday highlights 🖤 We've been trying to be s Saturday highlights 🖤 We've been trying to be super intentional with the time we spend with David and Evy recently, knowing that big changes are just around the corner! We pray with them, ask them what questions they have, take the time to explain things. I'm hoping they'll be set up pretty well for the transition of little sis coming in March but most of the work will happen after she gets here! How did you help littles prepare for baby?
Merry Christmas from the Damons! ❤️ Merry Christmas from the Damons! ❤️
The 12+ hour drive is worth it 😊 The 12+ hour drive is worth it 😊

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